Women's Mentoring Ministry

For Mentorees

It is so wonderful that you are seeing your need for a Mentor. We all need one. None of us have "arrived" and nor will anyone truly "arrive" on this side of heaven. So congratulations that you have recognized the Spirit's call to get wisdom and counsel. As the apostle Paul's instructs Pastor Titus in Titus 2:3-5:

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Keep the following in mind when you call someone to see if they would consider mentoring you...

  • What do you want your time with your mentor to look like (i.e. Bible Study, discussing life issues, accountability, household help, etc.) Ask them if they are willing to mentor in that way.
  • How frequently would you like to meet? Once a week, Every other week, once a month, etc.
  • How many weeks would you like to be mentored? Some recommend you set a fixed amount of weeks, that way it is not awkward if things are not going the way you had hoped. Ten weeks is a good length of time. You can always request another round in the future.

Several women have offered to serve as Mentors.  For the list or if you would like to be matched with someone, email alicia@trinitybozeman.org. Once you have the list, you can then look them up in the Trinity Directory to see if you recognize them and can guess if they would be a good fit. You may also consider just meeting a few of them for coffee and then choosing the one that you feel is best for you.

For Mentors

We are so thankful you are interested in considering Mentoring. Many young women have a desire to meet with other women and discuss life issues. Consider Paul's instructions to Pastor Titus in Titus 2:3-5:

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Being a mentor does not mean you will have all of the answers to every person's issues. Being a mentor means you will point others to the One who has all of the answers, and minister to them through listening, sharing God's word, identifying with them in their struggle through sharing how God has worked in your life, and praying for them and with them. We hope you find the resources on this page helpful and encouraging. Please continue to check back to this page as we will periodically update it with additional resources.

Documents

  • "One on One Discipleship" by Bryan Clark
  • "The Two Records Gospel Presentation" by Rex Clark
  • The Noble Wife, a Study on Proverbs 31, by Marabee Clark
  • Parenting with a Purpose, by Rex and Marabee Clark
  • Helpful List of questions that will help you Get to know your Mentoree: http://pcacdm.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/WMCoffee-Questions.pdf
  • "Accountability Questions and Hard Questions", Grace Bible Mentor packet

To request a copy of the documents not linked above, email alicia@trinitybozeman.org.

Recommended Books and Resources

As a church, we do not 100% agree with everything in each of these books but find some, or much, of the content helpful.

Books and Resources on Christian Walk:

  • Brokenness, Surrender, Holiness, A Place of Quiet, Choosing Forgiveness, Choosing Gratitude, Seeking Him, all by Nancy DeMoss
  • Instruments in the Redeemer's Hand, War of Words by Paul Tripp
  • When People are Big and God is Small, Ed Welch
  • The 10 Commandments, by Kevin DeYoung (Especially the chapter about Honoring your parents)
  • Identity Theft: Reclaiming the Truth of our Identity in Christ, by Melissa Kruger and Jen Wilkin
  • Overcoming Fear, Worry & Anxiety, by Elyse Fitzpatrick
  • The Path of Loneliness, by Elliot
  • A Woman's Wisdom, by Lydia Brownback
  • Shepherding your Child's Heart, by Paul Tripp
  • Humility, by CJ Mahaney
  • Women and God, by Kathleen Nielson
  • Girls' Club, by Sarah, Sally and Joy Clarkson
  • 7 Myths About Singleness, by Sam Allberry
  • How People Change, by Timothy Lane and Paul Tripp
  • Made for More, by Hannah Anderson (how we see ourselves as women in light of who we are as image bearers)
  • The Songs of Jesus, by Timothy Keller

Empty Nest

  • Barbara & Susan's Guide to the Empty Nest by Barbara Rainey & Susan Yates

Evangelism/Discipleshp

  • Podcast: Journeywomen #2 June 9, 2017, with Sarah Pape "Sharing the Gospel"
  • Respectable Sins, by Jerry Bridges
  • Navigators' Topical Memory system, by The Navigators
  • Jesus Storybook Bible, by Sally Lloyd-Jones

Hospitality

  • The Gospel Comes with a House Key, by Rosaria Butterfield

Joy

  • Surprised by Joy, by CS Lewis
  • When I Don't Desire god, How I Fight for Joy, by John Piper
  • In All Things, by Melissa Kruger (Bible Study)
  • Journeywoman Podcast: Joy, with Courtney Doctor

Marriage

  • Each for the Other, by Brian Chapel
  • When Sinners Say I Do, by Dave Harvey
  • Cherish, by Gary Thomas

Mentoring and Discipleship

  • Friendship of Women, by Dee Brestin
  • A Woman After God's Own Heart, Life Management for Busy Women, A Woman's High Calling, A Woman's Walk with God, all by Elizabeth George
  • The Life-Giving Home by Sally Clarkson
  • Growing Together, by Melissa B Kruger
  • Steadfast: A Devotional Bible Study on the Book of James, by Courtney Doctor

Podcasts

  • Journeywomen Podcast, Host Hunter Belis chats with mentors about gracefully navigating the seasons and challenges we face on our journey to glorify God.

Sexual Assault

  • Journeywomen Podcast #3, June 9, 2017 with Laren Zumbrum. "Joy and Transformation...after assault"

Teenagers

  • This Changes Everything: How the Gospel transforms the teen years, by Jaquelle Crowe

Teen Girls

  • Choosing Love In a Broken World by Heidi Johnston  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U3FGi6jJYmU
  • Confident Moms, Confident Daughters by Maria Furlough
  • Priceless by Jen Barrick with Linda Barrick
  • Insecure by John Perritt
  • Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart, by Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal
  • Lies Young Women Believe, by Nancy DeMoss Wolemuth and Dannah Gresh

Young Girls and Pre-Teens

  • Mom's Guide to Lies Girls Believe, by Dannah Gresh
  • Lies Girls Believe, by Dannah Gresh

PCA Recommends these books for Mentors to read to equip them for their mentoring ministry:

  • Spiritual Mothering by Susan Hunt
  • Titus 2 Tools by Susan Hunt
  • By Design by Susan Hunt
  • The True Woman by Susan Hunt
  • Treasures of Encouragement by Sharon Betters
  • The Legacy of Biblical Womanhood by Susan Hunt
  • Your Home—A Place of Grace by Susan Hunt
  • A Call to Discipleship (especially 2nd chapter What Do We Teach to the Disciple?), by Susan Heck
  • Sacred Companions, by Benner

Links on Mentoring: